Ending a relationship is never an easy even, especially if there are strong feelings, history or if it was not mutual. Even if the relationship is no longer good, it still hurt as we look at the dream and commitment we share, now loss. Unhealthy or unhappy relationships have no happy ending and when is does it leave us with, doubt, grief and stress.
Coping with break up
Ending a relationship is never an easy even, especially if there are strong feelings, history or if it was not mutual. Even if the relationship is no longer good, it still hurt
People who have not experience this their self may have no idea on how this can hurt , You may hear it many time, that other people break up and you may say “if it was me” , so many things you would or would not do , and often ready to say “ I TOLD YOU SO” . Most of us never truly understand the feeling until it happen to us. . Break up will forever change you even if you do not notice it at first, both parties involve will never be the same even if one notice before the other.
Break up or divorce leaves us with many question,
such as what did I did wrong?
Will I ever find love again?
Will I end up alone?
How will I now introduce myself to people?
During this we all grief differently and we may not always choose the best way we sometimes try to grab on to the next available person , becoming a serial dater ( making sure we never get dump again) , turn to medication or complete isolation from everyone , never putting our self out there again . Some people even become suicidal just the thought of being alone and the unhealthy relationship seems a lot better than facing the future alone.
Moving on from a break up is difficult but you have to keep in mind that you can do it and geta good support system, we all need help some times, so it’s not a shame to reach out to someone and ask for help .
Things you should not do when trying to move on:
Do not start to have casual sex , this won’t heal you , your pain will just be boiling inside
Do not Isolate yourself from your family or friends
Do not get desperate to be in love again , healing takes time
Do not stock your ex
Don’t fight your feelings , it is ok to grief
Things you should do on your road to recovery
Surround yourself with supporting love ones, this will help to reduce the feeling of loneliness. You may also join a support group to help you talk about your feelings this will help to liberate you.
Take a break, give yourself time to heal
Allow yourself to grief and understand that it is ok to feel sad, lonely , Confuse and angry.
Keep in mind that you still have a future, even though it will be hard to let those dreams go, just know you will have new dreams to come
Break up or divorce is never easy but sometimes its best to let go, explore a wider Verizon, you may also like it.You may also want to read how to cope with loneliness and lack of friendship